Saturday, July 2, 2011

Kay's Day - 07/02/2011

Got up around 7:00 am, had breakfast, then went over to the post office to mail out the last AT&T telephone bill that was in Ben's name. Bought some stamps while there because I'll probably have to send out more paperwork to some of the credit card places to close some of Ben's accounts. Keith got here between 10:00 am and 10:30 am. We headed over to the mortuary to pickup Ben's ashes. It wasn't as bad as I thought it might be except that I did get a little teary eyed when they brought the box with Ben's ashes in and set it on the table in front of me. They gave me 3 locks of his hair, but they only put paperclips on them, so some of them lost some of the hair from the paperclips into the envelope they put them in so I will have to try to put the locks back together. I bought some blue ribbon to tie around the locks. Blue was Ben's favorite color. The cremation locket ended up being a lot smaller than I thought it was going to be, but it's still nice to have. I went this afternoon and bought a nice sterling silver chain for the locket at Kmart. They had a 50% off the chains today only, so I lucked out on that. Went to Wal-Mart to see about getting a couple of Carbon Monoxide Detectors, but they didn't have the kind I wanted, so we stopped by the Home Depot and they had exactly what I wanted there. We went to lunch at Carl's Jr. It's well over 100° here again today. If we go for a walk, it will be after the sun goes down some. I have Ben's ashes sitting on the hearth in front of my fire place. Keith and I actually opened the box to see what the ashes looked like and we were surprised to find that they are not gray as we had expected, but more the color of sand. I've been second thinking taking his ashes up to Ferndale, CA. I guess that's why they always tell widows and widowers to make any major changes or do anything major for a long time until you are more in your "right" mind. Sometimes I now think that if I take them up to Ferndale that I don't know if I could really part with them. I'll have to think on it a lot before I do anything. If I decide to keep them, I know that sells cremation urns online and they are really nice looking and not very expensive. In awhile we will go out on the patio and grill up a couple of small steaks that I still had in the freezer. Ben was the big steak eater, not me. I probably won't buy steaks anymore after these are gone.


  1. I am glad to hear that this day went at least a little better than you had expected.You mention a cremation locket.Can you explain just what this is? I am not familiar with this.

  2. I know this was hard today. So much to consider. Just wanted you to know I stopped by. Wish I was closer to help and to be a friend. Take care.


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