Cloudy Sunday

Another dark, cloudy, gray morning. I must have rained last night because everything was wet when I let Hiker outside at 6:30 am. Went back to bed until 8 am. By then, everything was dry, but still looked like it could rain at any moment. Had some breakfast and Hiker and I went over to get my Lotto tickets. Came back and put a load of laundry in the washer and then did my weekly vacuuming. I kept hoping the sun would come out like it did yesterday so I could take Hiker out for a walk, but every time it looked like it would, within seconds it looked like it would start to rain. I finally decided to just light a fire and just stay inside all warm and toasty.

At Least We Got Out Today

I woke up in the middle of the night with a stomach ache, also had a slight head ache. Was hoping I was not coming down with the flu. Woke up again just before 6 am and let Hiker outside. We went back to bed and I slept until almost 8 am. Felt better when I got out of bed. It rained most of the night but when we got up this morning the sun was starting to shine. The bushes in my neighbors yard looked so petty with the sun shining on the water droplets. After breakfast, I did a load of laundry and then made some banana bread. I was watching TV the weather outside was getting really nice. Almost 70° with sun, big white fluffy clouds and blue sky. I was thinking about taking Hiker out for a walk when the phone rang. It was Jean. She wanted to know if I'd like to take the dogs out for a walk, so off we went. I'm glad we got out because I feel better now and Hiker was going crazy staying in the house. By 2:30 pm the sun had once again vanished behind the clouds and they say we may have more rain tonight and into tomorrow. Just got a card from “Tags Vet Clinic” in the mail that Hiker is due for her Rattlesnake Vaccine Booster. Guess I will take her this Thursday morning.

Another "Stay Inside, Rainy" Day

Hiker and I got up early this morning because we had a dog walk planned with Jean. It was cloudy outside, but not raining so I got dressed and got Hiker ready to go. About 15 minutes before we were about to leave, Jean called and said it had just started raining and when I looked outside, sure enough, it was. So no morning walk. Hiker has a new funny thing that she is doing. I have a battery operated clock on the bathroom wall. It has been there ever since Ben and I moved here, so it has been there when Hiker came to live with me. Well last night I was in the living room watching TV and Hiker had gone into the bedroom around 8 pm like she always does to crawl into bed before I do. Suddenly, she was barking. It was a “mad” bark like she has when someone comes to the door. I went into the bathroom and there was Hiker, sitting on the floor, starting at the clock and barking her head off. The clock has a second hand that is constantly moving and I think that was what Hiker notice. I finally got her calmed down, but now, everything she goes into that bathroom, she sits and stares at that clock. Was dark and drizzly all day. These kinds of days make me miss Ben more. I guess it's because I'm just sitting around doing nothing so I think about him more. On sunny days, I feel like getting out and about which helps me to not dwell on him being gone. I could tell Hiker was bored today. She would just wander around the house and come to me and just stare at me. Hopefully tomorrow will be a better day and she and I can maybe get out some.

Hiker notices the wall clock

Hiker barking at the wall clock

Boring, Rainy Day

I noticed it was sprinkling last night when I went to bed and when I woke up this morning at 6 am to let Hiker outside, it was raining. When she came back in I thought “what a perfect morning to sleep in” so we went back to bed for 2 hours. I dozed off, but it was raining pretty hard and it kept waking me up. All morning long, Hiker kept going in and out. I watched her and she was not going out to go potty. She would just wander around a little then come back into the house. I told her I thought she was doing it just to get dried off because it feels good when I rub her down with the towel. I lit a fire in the fireplace around 11:30 am. Even though the rain had stopped, it was still very cloudy and chilly outside. Around 1:45, the sun started coming out but then it went away again by 2:45. So I spent a very boring day at home on the sofa watching TV all day.

Cloudy Wednesday

Set my alarm to get up around 6:15 am to get ready to go on a dog walk with Jean. She emailed me the other day and said Sassy was getting cabin fever from being inside so much since she had her surgery so Jean wanted to get her out with Hiker and Jean's other digs. We did not let them have a play day though because Sassy's incision is still healing. I work up before my alarm went off because Hiker was licking me. She wanted to go outside to potty. Before she woke me up, I was having the craziest dream. I don't remember where I was or who I was with. All I remember was that my teeth had become loose and they were falling out of my mouth. No blood, no pain, just teeth falling out. Then I noticed that there was a whole other set of teeth behind the ones that fell out. Very strange. At first I was really glad because the second set of teeth were “perfect”. Very straight and very white, but then they also became loose and fell out. Thank goodness Hiker woke me up when she did and all of my teeth were really still in my mouth (LOL). After our dog walk, I did a little housework and then did some stuff out in the yard. Very cloudy here today. They say we should have rain by tomorrow sometime. Just hung out at home watching TV all afternoon. Kind of felt good since I was gone all day both Monday and Tuesday.

Good Day At Group

Slept really well last night after my day out with the girls. When we got up this morning to let Hiker outside, noticed that it is getting colder in the mornings again. It was 32° this morning. When we were having the Santa Anna Winds, the mornings were in the high 50's. They say we have a chance of rain this weekend. We really do need it. Things are really dry here in SoCal. Good grief group session today. Most of the regulars were there and we had a couple of “new” people join us. A lot of good discussion. Our “usual” lunch group went to Cathy's Deli after for lunch. I noticed when I was driving home that the high, thin clouds are coming back. Hiker was excited to see me when I came in the door.

Fun Day With My Friends

Got up a little earlier than normal today because I had to be at Sandi Owens's house at 8:30 to head up to Sunland where we will meet Judy Arbogast then head out to Ontario Mills Mall (about 70 miles from my home) to meet up with our friends Vicky Baskins and Elektra Genteel. We all worked together at Lockheed for many years. Vicky now lives in Hemet, CA so if we want to visit her, we have to meet her at the mall which is about half-way between where she lives and where we live. It's a day-long activity. I really hated leaving Hiker alone for so long. I always used to say that I never had the “mommy” gene but I have found that I have it with Hiker. I now know how mom's feel when their “babies” are away from them for a long period of time. I know Hiker sensed right away that I was going to leave her at home alone. She would just stare into my eyes and her ears were down. She was right by my side all morning. She also started bringing all of her toys to me to play. She hates for me to be out of her sight. Got home around 3:30 and I don't think I've ever seen Hiker more excited to see me. She jumped all over me and kept kissing me and then she sat down and started barking at me like she was bawling me out for leaving her for 7 hours. She was a very good girl...did not have any accidents while I was gone. Had a really nice time with my friends. We walked all around the mall, stopping at a few of the outlet stores and then sat in the food court and talked for about an hour before we got some food and had lunch. Was good to see all of them especially Vicky and Elektra because I had not seen them in about 3 or 4 years.

Sandi, Elektra, Me, Vicky & Judy

Great Hiking Weather

Got up before 8 am and Hiker and I headed over to Towsley Canyon to hike up to The Narrows. We did a 3.26 mile hike. I really, really, REALLY need to get back to more walks and more hikes. I was huffing and puffing after about a mile going up the hill. As I've said before, when I do the dog walks with Jean, it is more stopping than walking and lately when I've been taking Hiker for walks, they have been short, easy walks. The weather was beautiful...in the mid-60's and very sunny. There were a lot of people out hiking. When we got to Towsley, I didn't think I was going to find a place to park as both “no-fee” parking lots were totally full, but I finally did find a spot. A lot of people had their dogs and Hiker wanted to greet everyone of them, but some of them were not friendly and would growl. She did meet a really pretty Aussie Sheep Dog. It was beautiful. Black and white with freckles on its chest and legs like Hiker has and it had beautiful blue eyes. There were also a lot of mountain bikers. More than I've ever seen there, but they seemed to be more polite than the bike riders over in Placerita Canyon. They made noise to let us know they were behind us and they slowed down when passing us on the trail. I think Hiker was pooped from the hike because she took a long afternoon nap.

Beautiful, But Lazy Saturday

I was just a little sore this morning from waxing the car yesterday. Hiker and I slept in until about 8 am. She kept bugging me to get up. Put a beef roast into my crock pot and then sat around all morning watching TV. Just didn't feel like doing anything today for some reason. I get those days now and then. They are not like the days I had when Ben first died, but I still just sit around thinking about old times. After lunch, I put Hiker in the car and headed off with the intention of going somewhere that she and I could go for a nice walk, but once I was out on the road, I could not think of anywhere to go, so we ended up heading back towards home, stopping at Discovery Park. Got out and walked her around there for awhile then came back home. It seemed to satisfy her though. She got her car ride that she loves so much and a chance to get out and sniff. I'm thinking if tomorrow is as pretty as today was, I'll take her over to Towsley Canyon in the morning for a hike. The weather here today was 70° and sunny, but it was also still pretty windy. I've been invited to join 2 of my retired friends to drive out to the Ontario Mills Mall (about 70 miles from here) to have lunch with another one of our retired friends who lives in Hemet, CA. The mall is about half-way between where we live and where she lives, so that's where we meet her. I have not seen her in years, so I do want to go, but I just hate to think about leaving Hiker alone at home for 7 or 8 hours. When I go to my grief group and to lunch after, I leave her for about 4 or 5 hours and she does just fine. I know she misses me and hates for me to be out of her site for too long. I will leave her in the house because I don't like leaving her out in the yard when I am not home. I still fear that she might get out of the yard somehow. I'm not really worried about her holding her “potty” because she holds it all night for 10 hours.

Busy...Busy

Got up at 8 am and made breakfast, then went out and washed the car to get it ready for the rubbing compound and waxing. I worked on it most of the day, but it still does not look as good as I expected. The paint still looks oxidized and the hard water spots did not come out even though the rubbing compound claims that it cuts the hard water spots. So I feel like I basically wasted my time and energy doing the job. I don't even know if I had it professionally detailed if it would look any better and I'd hate to pay a lot of money and then have it not. I'm thinking that some day, I will just have to have the car re-painted. The years of it sitting in the boiling sun of Palmdale when I was working at Lockheed and the years of it sitting on the drive way in the sun and rain have just taken their toll on it. It was a beautiful day here today. In the low 70's, sunny but still somewhat windy. If the weather stays this way, I think I will take Hiker out for a hike in the mountains over the weekend if I'm not too sore from what I did today.

My Birthday

Hiker and I slept in a little bit today. Figured since it was my birthday, I was entitled (LOL). Put her in the car to go over to the store to do my grocery shopping. She just loves riding in the car so much. I try to take her as much as I can when the weather is cool because she cannot go with me when it is hot outside. It was very windy here all night and into the morning. Met my friend Judy Holdt at Backwoods Inn for lunch. We had a really nice time. I had their “signature” Wally Burger Plate with their special “stuffed” potato. It was delicious. Judy knows the waitress and she told her it was my birthday, so they brought me a chocolate cupcake that was also delicious. Judy followed me back home because she wanted to visit Hiker. We also walked over to Jean's to check and see how Sassy was doing. She was up and jumping around (even though she should not jump). She looked so much better than she did yesterday. After Judy left, Hiker and I did a short walk down to the park. It was beautiful outside...about 70° but very windy. So I had a really nice birthday. Tomorrow I won't be online much. I'm going to try to polish my Corolla. Hope I can get it all done in one day.

Long Day

Had to get up at 5:30 am today because I was going to help my neighbor Jean take her little dog Sassy to the mobile clinic to be spayed and we had to be there at 7 am. When we got back home after dropping her off, we took Hiker and Jean's other 2 dogs for a walk. It was not as cold this morning but it was getting very windy. They called Jean around 9:30 and said that Sassy's surgery was done and she was doing well and that we could come pick her up after 10:30. We went and picked her up and she was still groggy from the drugs. I held her on my lap as Jean drove us back home. Sassy kept crying and it made me feel bad for her. I helped get her into Jean's house while Jean was making the other dogs stay away from Sassy. We put her on a dog bed in Jean's bedroom. She was shaking so much and crying. Jean put a blanket in the drying and put it over Sassy because the clinic suggested that would make her feel better. I'm glad Hiker was spayed before I got her at the shelter because I don't think I could stand to see her go through this. I'd be crying right along with her. Got an email from Jane who is a member of my grief support group. One of our other members, Gin, is not feeling well. She did not come to group yesterday and she had emailed me and said she was not feeling well. I guess she is having a lot of pain and her kids have been taking her to the doctors to try to find out what is causing the pain. Hope she will be OK soon. Took Hiker out for a short afternoon walk. It was beautiful out but getting very windy. Since I got up so early this morning, I started falling asleep on the sofa this afternoon. ZZZZZZZZZZZZZ!

Group & Lunch

It was 24° when Hiker woke me up to go outside this morning. Went back to bed for about 45 minutes. I could not sleep in much today because I had to get up and go to my grief support group over at the senior center. When I got to the center, the parking lot was totally full. I finally found a place to park and found out from some people inside that a bus-load of seniors were going somewhere as a group to protest taxes. Don't really know what it was all about. Group was interesting today, but I was having trouble keeping my eye open because the cold weather makes me so sleepy. After group, seven of us went to have the pizza/salad buffet at Round Table. DeDee bought my meal for an “early” birthday lunch. THANKS DEDEE! One of the guys (Jim) went with us again. We tell him how “brave” he is because he's the only guy with 6 women. Was still cold and windy when I headed for home. Hiker met me at the door land she got so excited, she nipped at my thigh and left some marks, even though I had thick jeans on. She did not really break the skin, but it did hurt and I scolded her for doing it. Being a herding dog, she thinks it is OK to nip when she is playing (or working) because that's what her breed does when they are herding the cattle. After I scolded her, she walked around with her ears down and got up on the sofa next to me and started kissing my hand and barking at me. I figure that was her way of telling me she was sorry. Kept thinking I should take Hiker for a short afternoon walk, but when I went out to put the trash bins out at the curb, the wind just cut through me, so decided to just stay in the warm house.

BRRRRRRRRRR!

I cannot believe this weather we are having here in SoCal. Woke up to another morning of below freezing weather. Wind was blowing which made it even colder. Went for a dog walk with Jean at 7:15 am and there was ice all over the streets from people watering their lawns. All it did was make ice on their lawn (LOL). We had to be very careful not to slip and fall in the street. The dogs were slipping and sliding, their little legs racing to stay up on their feet. On the morning news, they said that it was 35° in downtown Los Angeles and that made a 22 year low for them. We were around 30° and they said our high today will only be around 47° but that we might be in the low 70's by the end of the week. Jean had a dental appointment this morning, so the dogs did not get to play in my yard after their walk. I took Hiker with me up to Sam's Club. She waited in the car while I went in to do some shopping. By noon we hit 50°...three degrees high than they predicted, but still very chilly for us. Took a cool photo of a humming bird that was out on my patio. Guess it wasn't too cold for him. Did not do an afternoon walk because it was still too cold.

Cold Sunday

Another very cold morning. 25° when Hiker went out this morning. I let her back in and she ran right back into the bedroom, jumped into bed and waited for me to join her, which I did. Didn't do much today. Did some laundry, vacuumed, took Hiker in the car with me to get my lottery tickets. I sure have been having a lot of strange dreams lately. Can never really remember what they are about, just remember that they are strange. At least I am sleeping good now. For months after Ben died, I could not sleep at all. Now I think I'm getting too much sleep (LOL). I have a busy week coming up. My usual dog walks with Jean on Monday and Friday. Tuesday is my grief support group. Wednesday I am helping Jean take her little dog Sassy to be spayed. Thursday is my birthday and my friend Judy is taking me to my favorite stead house for lunch. We are supposed to warm up close to 70° by the end of the week. Took Hiker out for a short walk this afternoon. Still very cold out there. Being born and raised in SoCal, I am not used to the freezing weather. It is NOT normal for us.

Chilly All Day

When I got up at 6:15 am this morning to let Hiker outside, the thermometer on the patio said it was 24°. When Hiker came back in, we both ran back into the bedroom and dove under the covers. When we got brave enough to come out again, it was still on 30° on the patio. Much too cold to go for a morning walk. Had a headache until I ate lunch and that seemed to help it go away. I remember I had a slight headache when I went to bed last night. I think it's because I need new eyeglasses but I don't want to go for that until after I see my ophthalmologist in February. Finally got warm enough to take Hiker for a short walk down in Discovery Park. Most of the day we were just lazy and stayed inside the house.

Another Cold Day In SoCal

Another very cold morning when we rolled out of bed. Got dressed and ready to head out for a dog walk with Jean then the dogs played for about 30 minutes in my back yard. Took Hiker back to Jean's house so she could groom Hiker. I was going to leave and go back to pick her up but Jean had a little trouble getting Hiker into the tub, so I decided to stay and make sure Hiker didn't give her any more problems. Once Jean gets Hiker into the tub, Hiker calms down. It's just getting her in there in the first place. She's always good while Jean is blow drying her. After lunch, I drove Hiker and myself over to the South Fork Trail Head and we did a 3 mile walk. Once again there was an icy cold wind blowing, so it was a little uncomfortable. At this location there is a paved bike/walking path plus a dirt bridle trail. I usually take Hiker on the bridle trail because there are no bikes allowed on the dirt trail so Hiker doesn't have to worry about them coming up behind her and scaring her.

Hiker at the groomer

Walking the South Fork Trail

Cold Wind

Got up at 6:15 am to let Hiker out to potty and it was cold, cloudy and windy. Hiker and I went back to bed and slept in until 8 am. It felt so warm and toasty under those covers that if Hiker had not been bugging me to get up at 8 am, I probably would have stayed there all day (LOL). Put Hiker in the car to go with me to pick up my Lotto tickets and noticed that the wind was freezing cold. No morning walk for us. Too damn cold. The sun came out later in the morning, but didn't warm up much. After lunch, Hiker kept attacking me on the sofa. She kept licking my neck and pawing at me, so I asked her if she wanted to go for a walk. When I said that, she got even more excited, so off we went. The sun was out and thermometer said it was in the mid-50's but the wind was still making it colder than that. I had to bundle up. Had a ball cap on but had to pull up my hood to keep my ears warm and the wind was making my eyes water.

Wasted Trip To The Mall

I had planned on washing and waxing my car today but heard that we are supposed to have rain tomorrow and maybe Friday, so decided to wait until we have about a week of nice days. No need to make it all nice just for the weather to mess it up. Hiker and I went to the bank and then over to Wal-Mart. I needed to pick up some of the refrigerated food I buy for her. Came home and then took her for a 1.89 mile walk. Had high, thin clouds and a little bit of sun. After lunch I headed over to the mall to JCPenney because I had a $10 reward certificate for using my credit card. I must have walked up and down every isle in that store and found absolutely nothing to buy. I used to love the JCPenney Outlet, but the regular stores seem to cater to the young, not to us “old” ladies. When I got home, Hiker kept barking at me like she was trying to tell me something. I don't know what she wanted. I think she has gotten used to going in the car somewhere and going for a walk. Just came in from playing in the backyard with Hiker. It is starting to get really cloudy now.

So Good To Be Back In Group

Today was the first day back at my grief support group since a week before Christmas. Was good to see everyone again. All of the usual people were there. While at the Senior Center, I signed up for the AARP Senior Driver Safety Course for next month. They have one this month but it's next week and I had some other things planned for the days they have it. It is a 2 day (4 hours each day) course. No testing or anything, just watching movies and listening to the instructor. After I complete the course, I will get a certificate and if I send that certificate to my auto insurance agent, I will get another discount on my auto policy. Went to lunch at Red Robin with the group ladies (DeDee, Jane, Gin, Linda and Carol). Hiker was so happy to see me when I got home. This was the first time in 3 weeks that I had left her alone for more than an hour or so. I took her for a short 3/4 of a mile walk around the neighborhood. It was in the mid-70's so I opened the house up for a little while. Don't think I'll have dinner tonight since I had a big lunch.

Not A Bad Monday

Got up a little after 6 am. Hiker had been trying to get me up from about 5:45 but I was ignoring her (LOL). She kept whimpering and hitting me with her paw. Had a dog walk with Jean and her dogs. Very cold outside again. After she left, Hiker and I had breakfast and then we went up to Stater Brothers and got a few groceries. I called Kaiser and made an appointment to see my ophthalmologist in February. It's a follow-up from when I saw her last August. My neighbor Jean said she would take me, but I hope she still can because the doctor is only at the Santa Clarita Kaiser office on Thursdays and that's one of the days that Jean usually plays canasta with her senior group. If not, I'll have to see if one of the ladies from my grief group can take me since they have to dilate my eyes. After lunch I took Hiker with me over to Wal-Mart to get some rubbing compound and car wax for my Corolla. I had it waxed last year, but it really needs to be rubbed out because the paint is getting so oxidized. I don't want to pay a big price to have it detailed so I've decided to do it myself. I used to always do my own car detailing when I was younger. Took Hiker for a short 1 mile afternoon walk in Discovery Park. The sun was out all day but it was a little nippy.

Boring Sunday

Boring day today. Got out of bed at 8 am. Things were wet outside, but not raining at the time. Sun came out a little. Had breakfast and then Hiker and I went out to pick up my Lotto tickets and then we came home and did a load of laundry. I usually vacuum on Sunday to pick up Hiker's hair out of the carpet, but didn't feel like doing it today. Watched TV while eating lunch and messed around on the computer for awhile. Hiker was stretched out on the sofa beside me. At 1:30 pm I noticed it had been drizzling a little outside. Lit the fireplace around 2:30 pm. So just sat on the sofa all day and did nothing. :-)

Did A 2 Mile Walk Today

Got up at 8 am and did a load of laundry. Sat around watching TV since it was still pretty chilly outside. Before I knew it, it was lunch time. Had lunch and then took Hiker into the back yard and played ball with her for awhile. We went back through the garage and I said “Hiker, after my lunch settles in my stomach, I'll take you for a ride in the car and find somewhere we can go for a walk”. When I got to the door that goes into the house, I noticed Hiker was not behind me. I turned to look for her and she was sitting on the other side of the 4Runner. I went around to see what she was doing and she was waiting for me to open the car door so she could get it. Guess she thought we were leaving right then (LOL). She sure loves to ride in the car. Between 12:30 and 1:00 pm, I took Hiker in the car over to the Lost Canyon Trail Head. I had never walked that portion of the bicycle trail. We did 2 miles. There were a lot of people on the trail both biking and walking. It was not as pretty outside today as it has been the past 2 or 3 days. We had high, thin clouds and a storm coming in tomorrow.

3 Nice Days In A Row

Got up around 6:15 am this morning to get ready for a dog walk with Jean. It was 32° outside. We did our walk around 7:30 am and then let the dog play in my back yard for awhile. Went over to Subway around 11 am and brought a sandwich home to have for lunch. I still had almost $7 on a Subway gift card and I still have just under a dollar on it after today's purchase. Around 1 pm, I put Hiker in the car and we headed over to Central Park in Saugus and once again, I let Hiker lead the way, so we “zig-zagged” around the park. It's kind of fun to let her lead because I never know where we are going to end up. She didn't go into the dog park today, but she stopped and looked through the fence at some English Bulldogs playing with a Frisbee. It was another clear and beautiful day.

Beautiful Afternoon At Vasquez Rocks

Another windy day. Got up at 8 am and had breakfast, then headed over to Sam's Club to put gas in the 4Runner and to pick up the stuff that I could not get at Costco yesterday. Also stopped by Wal-Mart because I wanted to get some doggy breath mints for Hiker but they did not have any. They had dental chews, but I already give her Denta-stix. Guess I will have to check out PetSmart. It was in the 60's outside when I got home. Around 1 pm, put Hiker in the car and headed up to Vasquez Rocks. Once again, it was a beautiful clear day and as I've mentioned before, Vasquez is a great place for photo ops. Plus Hiker loves it there. There was a lot of people there. I guess it's because school is still out for “winter break”. When I went to school, we had “Christmas vacation” and it was only from Christmas Eve through the day after New Years. Kids here have been out since the Thursday before Christmas and don't go back until January 14th. That's what the sign says at the Jr. High near me. Hiker “crashed” on the ottoman in the small bedroom after our hike, so I guess it wore her out.

Beautiful Day For A Walk Around The Lake

The wind was really howling here last night. The weather people on the local news said the gusts here in Santa Clarita were over 60 mph. It was not as cold this morning because of the wind. Hiker and I slept in until 8 am and had breakfast. Just before 10 am I headed up to Costco. Ben and I used to shop there all the time until they built our Sam's Club. I prefer Sam's Club because their membership is cheaper and the store feels brighter and cleaner than the Costco, but I still keep my membership at Costco because they have some things that I cannot get at Sam's. But I noticed today that there are also a lot of things I cannot get at Costco that Sam's has. Costco makes you buy 2 bottles of milk and 4 cartons of orange juice. I can get single bottles at Sam's. I also noticed that Costco charges more for their vitamins and supplements than Sam's does. So tomorrow morning I'll head over to Sam's Club to get what I could not get at Costco this morning. This afternoon I took Hiker over to Bridgeport Lake and let her watch the ducks. She also saw a snowy egret standing on the banks and she tried to go after it. Thought she was going to pull me into the water (LOL). I was getting tired of walking at Discovery Park all the time so decided to walk in a different area. It was such a beautify day outside even though it was a little windy.

New Year's Day

Did not stay up to welcome in the new year. Went to bed at 9 pm and turned on the TV. Watched a couple of episodes of “King Of The Hill” and fell asleep just after 10 pm. I did hear some loud music playing somewhere in the neighborhood. Guess someone was having a party, so I put in some earplugs and went right back to sleep. Woke up at 12:30, said “Happy New Year” to Hiker who was asleep next to me and went right back to sleep again. Another cold morning when we got up, but not as cold as it was yesterday. There was no frost this morning. Did not do a morning walk. My brother Ron called me and said that he has the flu. That's not good because he has to go back to work tomorrow. Stayed cold outside most of the day. Hiker went out into the yard now and then, but I stayed inside where it was warm. We had the hottest summer ever in 2012, and it feels like we are going to have our coldest winter in 2013. Watched a lot of the SyFy Channel “Twilight Zone” marathon and also went for a short afternoon walk. It was very cold and windy while we were out. Felt good to get back home and into the warm house.

HAPPY NEW YEAR!

Got up at 6:15 am to get ready for our dog walk with Jean. It was 25° on my patio and everything was covered with frost. Would have loved to crawl back under the warm covers this morning. Met Jean at 7:20 am and we headed down to Discovery Park. We had to be very careful walking because there was ice in the street and we almost lost our footing a few times. My hands and my feet were numb from the cold. We came back to my house and let the dogs play in the yard for a little while. Just about froze sitting on the patio watching them. It warmed up to about 55° in the afternoon, so Hiker and I went out for another walk. We did almost 1.5 miles. We did what I refer to as a “Hiker led walk”. I hook her leash to a belt around my waist and just let her take me wherever she wants to go. She prefers walking on the dirt trails in the park because there are no bikes or skateboards on the dirt. I just let her lead me around while she sniffs everything and I look for photo ops. Tonight at midnight, another year fades away. Once again I have the sad feeling that I will be facing another new year without Ben. I thought that last year I felt this way because it was the first year change since Ben had died. I can't really explain the feeling. It's as if his existence slips farther and farther away from me each year. I don't know if the other people in my grief group have this feeling or not. I wonder if I will feel this way each New Year's Eve. Don't know if we will be awake at midnight. Will probably fall asleep around 10:00 or so.

Frost on the ground at 7:30 am

Beautiful day after frost melted

Normal Sunday

It was 25° when Hiker went out the first time this morning. We jumped right back into the warm bed for awhile. Got up and had breakfast then we headed over to the Home Depot because I wanted to buy some more Duraflame Logs. I use them because it is easier to clean out the fireplace since they burn completely up. Regular wood does not burn all the way and you end up with chunks of unburned wood. At first I thought the store was all out of the Duraflame Logs. I asked if they had any and they told me the were up by the “self checkout”. They only had 3 boxes left. Came home and decided to take Hiker out for a short walk. It was on still only 41°, so we just walked about a mile around the streets of my community. I really need to lose some weight. I noticed that I get winded walking up the hills. I noticed that “The Majestic” was on TV so I started watching it. It was hard for me to do because the movie was filmed in Ferndale, CA, Ben's and my favorite vacation place and seeing the town brought back memories of Ben and I being there. The sun was out this morning when Hiker and I were walking but around 11:45 it started getting cloudy, dark and windy. The temperature dropped from 50° down to 42° and it started to rain. At 2:00 the sun came out again but it stayed cold.

Cold And Cloudy

Hiker seems to be better this morning. She went outside at 6 am and she still had a little bit of soft stool, but also had some solid. I'm guessing the Pepto-Bismol worked. She never did act sick...was hungry and was playing. Jean called around 8 am to see how Hiker was doing. It was cold again when we got out of bed this morning. It drizzled a little and then the sun peeked out then it got really cloudy again. Only got up to a high of 42° here today. Stayed inside and watched TV all day. Went online and ordered some cheese from the Loleta Cheese Factory. Still have a little bit left from my last order but I'll use that up tomorrow when I make mac & cheese. Tonight I'm going to have meatloaf. Love the leftovers for sandwiches.

A Cool But Sunny Day

Slept in until 8 am this morning because it was too cold to get out of bed. Went grocery shopping and was going to take Hiker for a walk when we got back, but I noticed that she had the “runs”. This is the first time she's had this problem since I got her. I think it was because of some chicken I gave her last night for dinner. I don't think it was fully cooked even though I had it in the oven for almost 30 minutes. It was a thick breast, so I don't think it cooked all the way through. I know I didn't finish mine for dinner last night because I was making me gag. Think I'll stick to cooking it in the crock pot because I slow cook it all day and that way I know for sure it is cooked through. I hope her belly is not hurting her. It was such a beautiful day, I took Hiker out for a walk this afternoon. I always attach her leash to a belt I wear around my waist so I don't have to hold onto her leash. This afternoon, I just let her walk wherever she wanted and sniff everything to her heart's content. She dragged me all over the river bed and the trails in the park. When we come to either the paved bike path or a dirt trail, Hiker always turns and looks at me to “ask” me which way we are going. I know she prefers the dirt trails because she knows there are no bicycles out there. I just told her to go where she wanted and she headed off for the dirt trail. It started clouding up around 3 pm. We are supposed to have rain this weekend.

Beautiful Day In SoCal

It was 35° when Hiker and I got out of bed this morning. The sky was very clear and there was a light breeze blowing. I got dressed and headed over to Wal-Mart to buy myself some new jeans. All of the ones I have are getting really old and starting to get holes in the knees. I know that's the latest fad with the young people, but my knees were getting cold (LOL). Came home and saw that Ben's sister Donna had called me. I called her back and she said that they were going to be heading back home today so they would not be able to see me again until next month when they will be back over here from Las Vegas. After lunch, I decided to go out and work in the yard. I had bought 5 bags of wood chips when Keith was here to spread in my flower beds, so I decided to do that because we are supposed to get more rain this weekend and I wanted to get it done before more rain came. I needed to fill my hummingbird feeder. I got my clothes all dirty. Looked like I'd been playing in the mud (LOL).

Finally A Sunny Day

Got up earlier this morning because I needed to go over to the main post office to mail something and to get some stamps and then headed over to Kaiser to pick-up my blood pressure medications. People must be out for the “after Christmas” sales because there was no line at either the post office or the pharmacy. It rained most of the night and it was harder than it has been. The sun came out this morning though. I had some dinner last night around 5 pm and decided to get into the shower and get my jammies on early to relax. While I was in the shower, Ben's sister called and said they wanted me to come over to her son's for dinner around 7 pm. I told her thanks, but no thanks due to the fact that I had already eaten and I was in my jammies with wet hair. Ben and I always ate dinner around 5 pm and we loved sitting around in our jammies watching TV. We were never “night” people and I still like to be home after dark. Jean had mentioned yesterday when we took the dogs for a walk that she was busy this Friday and would not be able to do our regular dog-walk, so she wanted to go out this afternoon and walk them, which we did. The sun was out and there were big white fluffy clouds. Really a beautiful afternoon.

Christmas Day

Didn't get out of bed until after 8 am this morning. I had what Pete, one of the widowers in our group calls a “meltdown”. I was not even thinking about Ben, but I just started sobbing. I was thinking that I really didn't need to get out of bed because all I had to do today was housework and walk Hiker. She kept whimpering and licking me. I was cleaning my master bathroom when Jean called and wanted to know if Hiker and I would like to do a dog walk, so when I finished the bathroom, we met her and walked and then let the dogs play in my backyard for about a hour. After lunch, I decided I'd wait about doing the rest of my housework, so I sat down and watch a “Rizzoli & Isles” marathon. Also called my older brother Ron. He said it was cold and rainy up in northern California. Was supposed to be clear today but was gloom almost all day. The sun came out for a few minutes. It only got up into the 50's today here.

Merry Christmas

Rain all night again. Keith left to head home around 9:15 am. He wanted to get started early because of the traffic. We knew there had been a sigalert on the 210 so he waited for it to clear up some before he left. It's just me and Hiker again so the house will be quiet and a little lonely after having Keith here with us. This is my second Christmas without Ben. Even though Ben and I never really did anything special for Christmas Day, it still hurts to be alone when I see families getting together to celebrate. As you know, we never had children. When our mom's were alive, we'd usually go to Ben's mom's house with my mom and we'd have Christmas with the mom's and Ben's brother and sister and their families. After the mom's died, we usually just stayed home on Christmas. We did have a few “traditions” even though it was always just the two of us. Just before Thanksgiving, I would get Ben to pose for our Christmas card photo. I always took the photo with the help of my tripod. He'd complain, but he'd always give in and let me take the photo. I'm so glad that I took several photos in November 2010 because those are some of the last photos I have of Ben and that is the way I always want to remember him, NOT the way he looked when he was in the hospital. The day after Thanksgiving, Ben and I would put Christmas lights on the outside of the house and the rest of the weekend, I would decorate the inside of the house putting up a tree, our Christmas stockings and garland. Ben would sit in his chair and “supervise”. He'd also sing Christmas carols. Not really knowing most of the words, he'd make up his own and make me laugh. Sometimes he'd grab a handful off tinsel or an ornament and hang it over his ears or put it in his hair. He was always so silly. If I was wrapping presents, he'd always grab a bow and apply it to his forehead. Ben's favorite Christmas movie was “It's A Wonderful Life” and our main tradition was to watch it together every Christmas Eve. It's hard for me to watch that movie now. However, Keith and I did watch it on Saturday night. I used to love to hear Christmas music, but it is so hard now to listen to some of the songs, especially “Blue Christmas” by Elvis. But....I think I have done very well so far.

Nice To Be With Family

Cloudy and foggy when we got up this morning. It rained softly most of the night and they say we are supposed to have more rain today. We went over to The Dollar Tree Store so Keith could pick up some Christmas paper to wrap a couple of things before he takes them home to his family. I used to have paper stored away, but after Ben died, I gave it all away. Went up to Sam's Club to put gasoline in the car and then came back home and took Hiker for a very short walk. We had planned on doing a longer one, but it started getting cloudier and looking like it might start to rain, so we headed back home. Ben's sister Donna called me from the road. She and her husband Rich were heading down from Vegas to be with their son and his family for Christmas. Their son lives not far from me. She wanted to say they were going to stop by my house on their way in and they wanted my brother Keith and I to go to lunch with them. When they got here, we went over to the Stonefire Grill. It sure was crowded there today. After lunch, they headed to their son's and Keith and I came back to my house. Good thing we took two cars. When we left the restaurant, it was starting to rain, but once we got back to my house, the sun was trying to peak out. It was very chilly outside though. Ben's sister will be here probably until Thursday, so hopefully I will be able to see her again before she leaves.

Ben's sister and her husband

Hang Out At Home Saturday

Not as cold this morning when we got up. It was about 30° at 7:00 am. Had to wait for the gardener to come before we could head out to do anything because I need to let the gardener into my backyard through the garage. So we sat around while I did a load of laundry and we played with Hiker. After the gardener was here, we headed over to Der Wienerschnitzel for lunch and then stopped by the Goodwill store and Big Lots. It was getting pretty dark and gray so we decided to stay in and watch some TV. Not much on TV on the weekends anymore. Since Keith won't be here for Christmas, I am making us a “Christmas dinner” tonight. Having baked ham and my cheesy potatoes.

Enjoyable Day

Went out last night and checked out the Christmas lights in our neighborhood. Hiker went with us and my neighbor Jean came along too. When we got up at 6:30 am this morning, it was 24° on my patio thermometer. Jean came over at 8:00 am and me, Hiker, Keith and Jean headed out to Pearblossom, CA to go to The Devil's Punch Bowl. Took us about an hour to get there. It was so pretty with the snow on the mountains. It was still in the mid-30's while we hiked around on the loop trail. Hiked about 2 miles. We were being “dare-devil's” today since we were right on top of the San Adreas Fault on the day that the world was supposed to come to an end. LOL. Came back home and them me, Keith and Jean went to Jimmy Dean's for lunch. In the afternoon, Keith and I went out and sat on the patio for awhile. Amazingly the temperature was 70° in the afternoon. How can it go from 24° to 70° like that? Only in California. Played “keep away from Hiker” with one of her toys. She still kept getting it from us and making us chase her. Having pizza and salad for dinner tonight.

Keith Is Visiting

Another very cold morning, plus the wind was blowing which made it feel even colder. Hiker and I went to buy my Lotto tickets for Saturday and then we went for a short walk down to the park. Came home and I did a little quick housework before Keith got here. He arrived just before noon. Hiker was so excited to see him. She was at the door barking and crying and jumping all over him. She loves her “Uncle Keith”. We went to have lunch at Subway and then hit a few stores because Keith needed to do some Christmas shopping. Guess no one is working this week because the stores were packed. Also stopped by Home Depot because I needed to pick up some things for the yard. Think we will head over to Denny's for dinner this evening and then around 7:00 pm, we are going to meet up with Jean and walk around the neighborhood and look at the Christmas lights. Hoping that tomorrow is not too cold or raining because I want to take Keith, Hiker and Jean up to The Devil's Punch Bowl in Pearblossom, CA. There may be snow up in that area. The Antelope Valley got down to 14° last night which broke some records.

My New Yard Decor

It was really cold this morning when Hiker and I got up. We went for a dog walk with Jean and her three dogs plus a dog she is boarding for a few days. After the walk, Hiker and I headed over to Stater Brothers so I could pick up a few things I needed for when Keith is here. A couple of years ago, my brother Ron had given me a bird bath that he no longer wanted. I put it on my patio but because it sat in the direct sun, it started to rust away. I needed to put something in the spot where the bird bath was. I had received a $100 Amazon gift card for doing online surveys, so I looked on Amazon and found a 39” tall solar lighthouse. I ordered it on December 16th and it arrived on the evening of December 18th. I spent some time this morning setting it up in the backyard. Also had to do a little housework before Keith gets here tomorrow. It was cold here all day.

Went To Group Today

It rained all night and into this morning. Stopped just as I left to go to my grief group. Even though it is a busy time of year for most people, most of the regulars were there. Our therapist was surprised to see so many of us there today. It was a sad day for her as she had to inform us that her beloved dog Mulligan had to be put down yesterday. He was an 11 year old Bearded Collie. We all knew that he was sick. She found out he had an enlarged heart a year ago and at that time, the vet didn't think he'd live more than a couple of days. Needless to say, I came home and gave Hiker a really BIG hug. Did not go to lunch today after group. There were only three of us who might have gone, but I needed to go to Sam's Club and Ruth had to babysit her grandchildren. Judy, our therapist might book a room for us at a local restaurant for a lunch between Christmas and New Years. The sun came out while we were in group and it looked like it was going to clear up, but around 2:00 pm, the clouds started to come back and it started to get very cold outside. I am really looking forward to Keith coming for a visit in the next few days.

Nice Lunch With Friends

Had trouble going to sleep last night. For some reason, I just tossed and turned. Finally took a sleep aid around 1:15 am and fell asleep. It rained again last night and when I got up to let Hiker outside, it was very cloudy and wet. Had a dog-walking date with Jean but called her around 6:30 am and we both agreed that it was too cloudy and too wet to take the dogs out. One of her dogs (Charlie) is a King Charles Spaniel and he gets really wet and muddy. I went back to bed and slept until 8:00. Hiker kept looking at me and then the door as if she was asking why we were not going on our walk with Jean. My good friends, Karren and Wally Meggitt came down from the Antelope Valley and the 3 of us went to lunch at Cathy's Deli in Newhall, CA. Was nice to see them. I only get to see them maybe 3 or 4 times a year. We used to get together more when Ben was alive and even went on a couple of vacations together. Hiker really likes Wally. She seems to take to men more. I guess it's because they want to play with her. Was very dark and cloudy here all day. Only got up to 55° which is “cold” for southern California.

I Was A Couch Potato Today

Another cold and gray morning when Hiker and I got out of bed this morning. I don't know what is wrong with me, but I have not felt like doing anything for the past few days. I don't know if it's the holidays, the weather, or just that I am missing Ben. Keith will be coming to visit for a few days before Christmas. I am really looking forward to that. One of the ladies who is in my grief group is visiting her family in Utah. She called me yesterday evening to see how I'm doing. This is her first Christmas without her husband. I cried again this afternoon. Seems that I've been doing more of that lately and I'm sure it's because of the time of year. I was outside with Hiker. She wanted me to play with her. It was cold and cloudy outside and I started to remember another cold and cloudy Sunday in January 2011. It was January 2nd. Ben and I had gone over to the Home Depot to buy a bag of wood chips to put in a spot in the backyard that I had just cleaned up. It had been full of weeds. Anyway, we bought a bag of wood chips and brought it home and he helped me spread the chips around the area. That evening it snowed here. Funny how I can remember every detail. Seems like this Christmas holiday time is harder on me than last year was. I'm guessing it's because last year I was still numb. Watched a very good movie on TV that I had never seen before. I had heard of it, but never saw it. It was called “A Time To Kill” and it had so many stars in it.

Another Lazy Day

Had a nice time at the community Christmas party last night. There were about 200 people there. I met some nice people who live in the community. The food was good and there was Christmas music. The did a raffle for the kids and a raffle for the adults and gave out many prizes. They also gave out prizes for the 3 best decorated homes in the community and my neighbor Jean won 3rd place. One of our gate guards who lives in the community (Marty) played Santa and all of the kids got to sit on his lap. Several adults did too (LOL). We were there for about 2 hours. When we left around 9:00 pm, it was cold and raining outside. We had walk home around 2 blocks, but it wasn't too bad. Hiker was so happy when I came through the door. I had left the lights and the TV on for her while I was gone. When we got up this morning, it was about 38°. We had breakfast and then headed out for a morning walk. The sun was out but it was still very cold. Cannot believe that as of today, Ben has been gone for 18 months. Where has the time gone? But it still feels like it was not that long ago. I still feel him here with me. Hiker was having a fit awhile ago. She saw a kitty on "her" fence in the side yard. I don't know how she relates to cats one-on-one. I was very sunny most of the day but stayed cool outside. Around 2:30 pm it started getting very cloudy again. Got an email from my brother Ron in Paradise, CA. He said it was starting to snow there.

Very Cold For SoCal

It was very cold when I got up at 6:15 am to let Hiker outside this morning. It was 32° and there was ice on all of the houses. Went for a dog walk with Jean. Had to bundle up to stay warm. We “SoCal Gals” are not used to cold weather (LOL). We only got up to 48°. I was born and raised in Southern California and I have seen snow and cold weather now and then, but I know our “cold” weather is nothing compared to what many of you have. Tonight is the community Christmas party at our club house. I'm a little nervous about °going since I will only know a couple of people there. I've never left Hiker home alone at night, so I hope she will be OK. Guess there was a pretty good sized earthquake off the coast from us last night, but I didn't feel a thing. So sad about the school shooting in Connecticut this morning. Why are there people in this world who do things like that? Always seems like terrible things happen close to Christmas. Was cloudy and gray most of the day so Hiker and I stayed inside where it was warm.

Another Gray Cloudy Day

It rained all night. I had to use earplugs because it was keeping me awake. Got up around 6:00 am to let Hiker outside and it was very dark and cloudy. Went back to bed and got up around 8:00 am. By then the sun was breaking through the clouds. Took Hiker with me to get my Lotto ticket for Saturday and then took her for a walk inside our gated community. It was too muddy to take her to the park. I burned another log in the fire today. It was pretty cold for southern California. Don't know if it's because of the time of year or the weather, but I just feel like I don't want to do anything but sit on the sofa and watch TV. The sun kept peaking out off and on all day.

Dreary Day

Got up, had breakfast and then put Hiker in the car to go over to Wal-Mart. Had to get there before it got crowded. Came home and put my purchases away then we headed over to the bank because I needed to cash a few checks. When we got back, started out for a walk within our gated community. It started to rain while we were out. I had my umbrella with me and I pushed the button to open it and it scared Hiker and she “screamed”. She does that when something frightens her which all the more makes me believe that someone was mean to her when she was a puppy. Came back home and decided to settle down on the sofa and watch TV. Perfect day for it with this kind of weather. Hiker and I had a nice fire in the fireplace and just relaxed all day as it stayed dark and cloudy and a bit chilly. Didn't get much rain, but they are saying we might get some tomorrow and that the snow level will drop to about 3000 feet.

Good Day At Group

I cried this morning. It was a “major” cry, not the little minor ones I have now and then. I was outside “cleaning up after Hiker” and I heard some sirens. For some reason, my memory flashed back to the two ambulance rides I had to the ER at Henry Mayo when right after Ben's first colon surgery. He was still unconscious when I was in the ER those two times and after he woke up, I never told him about those two trips I took. I figured I would tell him later when he came home. He didn't need to know about them right then. Anyway, as I said, my memory flashed back and I started to think about how Ben always worried about me. How he would call me from work if he had not heard from me for awhile to make sure I was OK. How he would insist I call him if I was going anywhere and to call him when I got back home. Next thing I knew, I was sobbing. I'm sure that these feelings have a lot to do with it being Christmas time. I have not cried like that for several months. Moving on...I'm beginning to think that Hiker may associate my leaving her for 5 or 6 hours when I go to my group on Tuesdays with my gathering up the trash. Why do I think that you ask? Well, before I go to my group, I always gather all of the trash in the house and put it out in the big trash bin so that when I come home from my group in the afternoon, I can put the bins out by the curb for pickup. Lately, Hiker has been “attacking” me and the trash bags I am taking out to the bins. She tries to grab the trash bags and I'm always afraid she's going to get hold of one and tear it to shreds and the trash will be all over the house. I'm now thinking that she associates the trash with my leaving her and maybe she thinks if she “kills” the trash, I won't leave her. Maybe I'm wrong, but it's a thought. Group was good today. Had a full-house again. Shed some tears but also laughed. Went to lunch with DeDee, Linda, Jane and Ruth and we always enjoy our conversations. Probably because we all understand each other. When I got home, I got kisses from Hiker. She “helped” me put the trash bins out and she went up to get the mail with me, then I took her down to the park. There was a man there that came up to ask me what kind of dog she was and he told me how pretty she was (which I already know LOL). Came home and relaxed. Pretty good day after all.

I Hate It When Things Quit Working

I don't know what was wrong with me the second half of yesterday, but I could not stay awake. As I mentioned in yesterday's email blog, after I took Hiker out for an afternoon walk, I came home and fell asleep on the sofa, which is strange for me because I have never been a napper. I slept for about an hour and even after I woke up, I was still feeling very sleepy. I dozed off and on for awhile until I finally got up and fed Hiker and made my dinner. After dinner, I went in and took a shower to try to wake up, but it did not help. I finally went to be just before 8:00 pm and feel right to sleep. I remember having very strange dreams all night, but don't remember what they were about. Got up and went for a dog walk with Jean this morning. It was pretty chilly outside at 7:30 in the morning. I went up to Sam's Club this morning to pick up some things and when I got home, I was using my Food Saver Sealer to package some things I wanted to freeze and my sealer started acting up and I was afraid it was going to stop working. Ben and I bought it several years ago. It was the second one we had and I have noticed that they only last about 7 or 8 years. Anyway, I had a 20% off coupon for Bed, Bath & Beyond so I went up there and bought a new sealer. I saved $30 with the coupon. Ben and I used to say that those Food Saver Sealers were the best things we ever bought. I use it all the time. I guess Facebook was down this after. I could not get on it on my computers, my iPad or my iPhone.

Busy Sunday

I was very busy this morning. After we got up I vacuumed out my Corolla and washed it. Hiker gets so much hair in it because that's usually the car I use if she is going somewhere with me. After I finished, I washed my sheets and towels and vacuumed the carpet. I went to bed early last night because my joints were bothering me. I really think I am getting arthritis. Hiker woke me up a little later than she normally does. After lunch I was just heading out the door to take Hiker for an afternoon walk when I heard the house phone ringing. It was my friend Karren calling to plan a day for her and her husband Wally to come and go to lunch with me before Christmas. We made a date for December 17th. After the call, I took Hiker down to Discovery Park where we walked around the dry riverbed. While there, Hiker got scared from a kid riding by on a skateboard and she peed from fear. She has not done that for a long time. Was a beautiful day outside. When we got back home, I sat down on the sofa and turned the TV on, only to fall asleep. Woke up about an hour later.

Baking Day

Took Hiker out for a 1.6 mile walk this morning. It was crystal clear outside. The mountains looked beautiful, but it was a little chilly. When we got back home, I put a load of laundry into the washer and then I started making fudge. I made a batch of Hershey Milk Chocolate with walnuts and a batch of Reese’s peanut butter with extra peanuts. Then I made some peanut butter cookies and some sugar cookies. The peanut butter cookies didn't come out as good as the sugar cookies, so I'm not going to share them with my grief group. They taste good, but just don't look right. I've decided that next year, if I make anything, it will just be fudge because it just takes too long to make the other stuff and it makes a big mess.

Lunch Out With The Girls

Was chilly out this morning when Jean and I did the every-Friday-dog-walk. After the walk and a little time for the dogs to play in my yard, Jean left and I got ready to head up to Palmdale for a lunch with a few of my retired girlfriends. Several of them could not go this time because of illness or other family things, but that's OK. Only 4 of us were there, but it was still nice. On the way up, I got stuck in traffic on the freeway because there was a bad accident just before the off-ramp I needed. One care overturned and the other car...the rear bummer was crushed all the way into the car to right behind the driver's seat. Don't know if anyone was hurt because I got there when they were putting the vehicles on the flatbed tow trucks. When I headed home, I had to take the “scenic” drive through Palmdale because the on-ramp I use was closed. Then when I finally got back on the freeway, there was a funeral procession on the freeway, so I just got off and took Sierra Highway the rest of the way home. Hiker was happy when I got home.

Relaxing Day

Got up, had breakfast and then went grocery shopping. When I got home, I took Hiker out for a morning walk. The sun was so bright. Was pretty much “do nothing” day after that. Thought I'd relax today because I've been busy most of the week and tomorrow I'm meeting my Lockheed retired girlfriends for lunch. I'm thinking this weekend I am going to do some baking of Christmas cookies and make some fudge so I can take it to my group on Tuesday. I took Hiker for a short late afternoon walk and it was starting to get windy. They are saying we are supposed to have a very windy weekend. I also noticed that there are leaves all over my front yard and I don't even have a tree in my front yard. Go figure.

Lunch With Ben's Best Buddy

Was cold when we got up this morning...43° outside. We sent for a walk with Jean and her dogs, then sat on my patio while the dogs played in the yard. Jean keeps asking me to go to our community Christmas Party with her on December 14th. I'm thinking about it. Ben and I never attended and last year I didn't feel like doing anything since it had only been 6 months since Ben had passed away, but I'm thinking about maybe going this year. They serve dinner, have a Santa for the kids in the neighborhood, have raffles, etc. My friend Ed, who was Ben's best buddy, is coming over today and we are going to go out for pizza. Ben and Ed worked together years ago and were friends for over 35 years. He really misses Ben and he keeps in touch with me and we get together now and then for lunch. I was going to invite Jean to go with us, but she had to go to a memorial service today. What's so good about Ed keeping in touch with me is that we have learned at our grief support group that we are now living a “different” life than we shared with our spouses. We now have friends who never knew our mates and so we cannot share the old life we had with our new friends, but with friends like Ed, a person who REALLY knew Ben, we can sit and talk about Ben for hours and share stories about him and that is good for the healing process. After Ed left, Hiker and I went down to the park for awhile. It actually got up to 81° here today.

Good Group Today

Was very foggy when I let Hiker outside this morning, but by the time we got up, the fog was only over the mountains and in the canyons. The sun came out but it was still chilly. Today is my friend DeDee's birthday, so I treated her to lunch after the grief group. We went to Red Robin or burgers and one of the guys in the group (Jim) actually came with us. This is the first time one of the men has joined us for lunch. We always invite them, but we always figured the felt a little “funny” going with the women, but Jim seemed fine with us. He lucked out too. Red Robin was offering (today only) a free Jim Beam Burger to anyone named Jim or who lived on “James Street”. Our therapist was 30 minutes late for group today because she got stuck in bumper to bumper traffic. We had a new person today. A very nice woman named Edith whose husband of 60 years passed away 5 1/2 months ago. When I got home, I took Hiker for a short walk down to the park. It was getting a little cloudy outside again, but they keep saying the clouds will be totally gone soon.

Today's Post

Slept in again this morning. When I let Hiker outside to potty it was dark and cloudy, but not raining. When we did get up, the sun was actually peeking out some. We went for a walk and it was mostly cloudy but once we got home, the sun came out and stayed out all day. Didn't do much most of the day, but the rest of my week will be busy. Tuesday is grief group, Wednesday, Ben's buddy Ed is coming up from Pomona to go to lunch with me. Thursday I will do my grocery shopping and Friday I'm meeting with my Lockheed retired girlfriends for lunch in Palmdale. We went for an afternoon walk. Looks like it's finally going to clear up.

Drizzled Most Of The Day Again

When I got up at 6:15 am to let Hiker out to potty, it was extremely dark and cloudy. I sure can tell that we are close to the shortest day of the year because it is so dark in the morning and then it gets dark really early in the evening. Since it was so gloomy out, I  decided Hiker and I were going to sleep in. She was OK with that for awhile, but around 8:15 am she decided it was time to get up and she let me know it. I always feel like I've wasted half my day when I get out of bed late. Last night I was watching the History2 Channel and they are doing a “Countdown to Apocalypse” thing heading into December 21st...the day the world is supposedly going to end per the Mayans. It actually scared me a little because so much of the stuff the Mayans predicted is happening right now, including this thing about the “fiscal cliff”. But I try to ignore it all because there is no use in worrying because if something is going to happen, we can't stop it. I think my biggest fears would be a nuclear war or the earth being hit by an asteroid or Yellowstone Park exploding. But if any of these things were to happen in our lifetime, we'd most likely be killed instantly. OK...enough doom. When Hiker and I finally dragged ourselves out of bed, I made breakfast and then took Hiker with me to buy my Lotto tickets. When we got home, I decided to take Hiker out for a walk before it started to rain. I was going to just walk her around inside our gated community and we no more than got out the door and we ran into Jean and her three dogs. She had gone to her mailbox. We decided to do a dog-walk since we can't do one Monday because Jean has an appointment Monday morning. Just before we finished our walk, it started to drizzle and has been drizzling off and on all day. After the walk, I put the laundry in the machine and then vacuumed the house. Finally sat down to watch the “Murder She Wrote” marathon on Hallmark Movie Channel. I wish they would show “Hart To Hart” on one of the cable channels. The sun came out in the late afternoon, but it was still chilly because the wind was blowing. I decided to light the fireplace again to get the chill off the living room. Hiker was lying in front of the fireplace enjoying it.

Another Cloudy Day

Hiker and I slept in again this morning. We didn't have any plans for today so we figured it wouldn't hurt. Still cloudy and gray here. Hiker has been “playing” with her pillow bed all day. She somehow gets it upended and she pushes it all around the living room. Silly dog. Did not take Hiker out for a morning walk because everything was so wet, plus I was waiting for the gardener to come and mow. I needed to be home if and when he did so I could pay him for the month and to let him into the backyard through the garage. He used to go through the side gate but before Ben died we had gravel and stepping stones put on that side of the house so he cannot get his mower through there anymore. I have to let him go through the garage. I don't know what the heck happened today, but I got an upgrade for iTunes on my laptop where I sync my iPhone and iPad and when I plugged my iPhone in to sync it, I lost a bunch of apps and a bunch of contacts so now I have to go back and add them. Took Hiker down to the park just before lunch. Very cloudy outside.